Flashback2007, before I started teaching dance lessons, I wanted to end my reign as President of our local USA Dance chapter by offering our members one additional social dance to the schedule. So, we rented space at a local venue, created our music playlist and voila! ~ we had the makings of a very pleasant dance. You might be thinking how nice! Well. . . it was for the couples who attended. But for the 3 single ladies who were there (me, my mother and another chapter member) it was pretty miserable. The couples all migrated to the opposite end of the room to dance and socialize. We sat for 45 minutes before anyone approached us to ask us to dance (and in the world of social dancing that’s a “no no”). So there we were, among our own dance peers and no one had the courtesy to ask us to dance. Finally, only by the grace of a “mixer” (a dance designed for partners to rotate so everyone has the chance to dance) we danced.
So, men, this leads me to Social Dance Tip #1: if you are a married or dancing couple sitting at a table with single ladies at a ballroom social dance, it would be most kind and courteous if you would ask a lady to dance. This, of course, should be of mutual consent with your dance partner. Just one dance, just 3 minutes out of your night. And even if you dance with 4 ladies that’s probably less than 15 minutes out of a 3 hour event. It doesn’t mean you have to ask again, and it doesn’t mean you have to accept additional invitations to dance from other women, but at least you have extended the social grace by inviting a lady to dance who doesn’t have a partner. After all, they paid the same admission price (sometimes more as a single) to dance and should have that opportunity. I realize it’s your date night too, but it’s a polite gesture and will allow others to see that she is available to dance. Who knows? She could end up with a full dance card when others see her on the floor.
What’s Tip 2? Stay tuned for Part II coming soon.
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